Posted by Trisha (207.69.139.145) on May 12, 2004 at 22:38:18:
In Reply to: miscarriage at 14 weeks posted by Sandra Strickler on May 04, 2004 at 22:20:24:
I had an early miscarriage in 1999 (at about 11 weeks, but the doctors thought the baby had died around 9 weeks... I believe). S/he would have been our second baby. The miscarriage was VERY hard for me for a long time. I still think of that lost child when the due date rolls around. One thing that helped the healing was we named our baby (even though we didn't know the sex). When we say our prayers and ask for blessings we include "Baby Hope," and continue to do so to this day. I picked the name to remind me to keep hoping for another baby, hoping for understanding, etc. Another good name would have been Faith!
We don't know during our earthly lives why these sad things happen. The only thing I could think of was that there was something about that baby that God didn't think we could handle, and as difficult as the loss was, it was all part of His loving plan for our family.
I will pray for your family. If you are Catholic, or even if you're not, you can pray and ask St. Gerrard to pray for you too. He is the Patron Saint of Mothers. Something else I do from time to time is ask our "Hope" to pray for us. My husband said, at the time of the miscarriage, that since "Hope" was our child s/he would pray our intentions and that s/he is in Heaven, close to God's ear... and thus a good person to have pray for us.
We have, by the way, four children now... the last one (7 months old now) I wasn't at all ready for. Sooo, even though it wasn't in my "plan," at the moment, God stepped in and reminded me that he knows what's best.
I hope somehow my thoughts have helped in your healing process and not deepened the wounds. God Bless, Trisha
: I had a D&C on Jan. 3, 2004, at 18 weeks. Our baby had died at about 14 weeks. Please pray for my husband, my 2 sons and I to make sense of this and to not lose our faith in God. Even knowing He feels our pain, and He wasn't responsible for this, I sometimes still can't help but blame Him. I pray for understanding. We also pray for His protection in trying to conceive again. Thank you, and God bless.